

Have you ever felt nervous on behalf of someone else? Empathetic anxiety, or feeling anxious when you feel that someone else is anxious, is a well documented phenomena. This phenomena applies to children as well, however what is less known is how shy children respond to seeing a peer in stress. Shy kids are often seen by their peers as less empathetic, because of their tendency to say little and not interact with their peers. However, it is likely that they are just as empathetic as their peers, but just show it a little differently.
To test this, the researchers set up a study where they would observe shy children upon seeing a peer in a stressful situation. Heart rate was recorded as a measure of anxiety: higher heart rate corresponded with higher levels of stress and anxiety. Children were assigned to pairs, and then had to take turns giving a 3-5 minute speech in front of the other child and a few other strangers. Both children were recorded during the preparation and presentation of the speech. The presenting child behavior was analyzed for physical indications of stress, which the observing child’s heart rate was recorded. The children also took a questionnaire prior to this to determine levels of shyness, allowing the researchers to draw correlations between levels of shyness and stress when observing people with varying degrees of visible anxiety.
The results of the study show that children’s shyness was correlated with stress in the context of their peer’s social stress, especially if the presenting peer was exhibiting visible signs of anxiety. For example, if a shy kid was observing their peer give a speech and they exhibited many anxious behaviors while speaking, the shy kid would experience more stress than if their peer hadn’t been exhibiting so many anxious behaviors. Anxious behaviors include things like stuttering, mumbling, and avoiding eye contact. Interestingly enough, the study also indicated that when the child presenting seemed confident, shy children were more likely to have a decreased heart rate, corresponding to lowering levels of stress.
The results of this study indicate that shy children are able to recognize and empathize with the social stress of a peer, going so far as to feel the stress themselves. Contradictory to what some may think about shy kids, they are in fact quite empathetic to their peers. Their perceived lack of empathy might be more about a lesser amount of obvious empathic behaviors rather than feeling less empathy than a child that is not shy.
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Afrah Rafi
UConn KIDS Research Assistant







