Stop Soothing Your Child with digital devices

​​Study revealed that frequent use of mobile devices to calm children ages 3-5 was associated with increased emotional dysregulation. Devices may displace opportunities for development of alternative methods to self-regulate, researchers say. Children who already experience hyperactivity, impulsiveness and a strong temperament may struggle with coping skills. The habit of using devices to manage difficult behavior strengthens over time as children’s media demands strengthen as well. The more often devices are used, the less practice children — and their parents — get to using other coping strategies. Alternative soothing methods can help build emotion regulation skills.

Caretakers can also teach kids emotional coping skills when they are calm, according to Radesky. They might discuss with them, for instance, how their favorite stuffed animal might be feeling and how they deal with their strong emotions and relax. Kids can relate to this kind of lighthearted conversation because it employs their language.

According to Radesky, “all of these methods help kids understand themselves better and feel more competent at managing their moods.” “It requires practice on the part of the caregiver, who must likewise try to maintain composure and avoid overreacting to the child’s feelings, but it helps children develop lifelong abilities for managing their emotions.

“Contrarily, employing a distraction like a mobile device doesn’t teach a skill; instead, it simply diverts the child’s attention. In cases where parents are tempted to use a device, Radesky suggests several alternatives. Sensory techniques: Each young child has a different profile of the sensory input that settles them down. Swinging, cuddling, or pressure, jumping on a trampoline, squashing putty in their hands, listening to music, or gazing at a book or sparkling jar are a few examples of what this might entail. If you notice your child becoming agitated, try to distract them with body movement or sensory activities.

Identify the feeling and offer a solution: Parental labeling of a child’s feelings demonstrates to the child that they are understood while also assisting the child in making the connection between language and emotional states. More composed parents are better able to demonstrate emotions to their children.

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Hsin-Yu Huang

UConn KIDS Research Assistant