Every parent wonders: Does the way I raise my child really shape who they become? There are 4 main parenting styles, defined by the ways parents interact with and set rules for their kids: Authoritative (parents are warm and caring, but also set clear rules and expect children to follow them), Authoritarian (parents have strict rules, demand obedience, and show less warmth), Permissive (parents are loving and kind but don’t enforce many rules or expectations), and Neglectful (parents show low warmth and don’t set many rules or monitor the child much). Each style shows how each one can affect a child’s emotions, school success, friendships, and behavior.
The findings suggest that the “sweet spot” is being both caring and structured. Kids raised with warmth and clear rules tend to thrive the most. But it’s not that simple–culture, family resources, stress, and even technology all change how parenting styles play out in real life. What works well in one family or culture may not in another. Being too permissive might feel loving but can leave the kids struggling with self-control. In today’s world, questions about digital media and modern family life add even more layers.
This article opens up an important conversation: not just about which style is “right,” but about how parents, communities, and societies can better support their children so they have the chance to thrive no matter their circumstances!
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Erin Mulroy
UConn KIDS, Research Assistant