Sibling Rivalry is a common behavior in families with more than one child. This practice has been with humans for more than centuries, however, contrary to common parents’ beliefs it could lead to serious negative consequences. In 2021, the research found that there is a strong correlation between sibling bullying and lower self-esteem and a sense of competence. Another research also discovers that sibling bullying can greatly increase the risk of depression and self-harm behavior.

    In the existence of sibling rivalry, parents’ reactions toward it are crucial. A few strategies provided by professionals are to resist comparisons and to be aware of the situation.

Every child is unique and different. Sometimes comparisons are inevitable and it was one of the greatest tools for keeping kids in order, be careful not to compare to the extent that would make one feel less than another. To be aware, be aware of your biases and how life events, and stages can affect siblings. Second, be aware of what you say and do around them, and to the greatest extent try to be equal to every child. Furthermore, many events could affect siblings, both positive and negative, not that you shouldn’t celebrate the good but try to give the other sibling some extra love too.

Finally, spend more time together as a family, and set some ground rules. However, if sibling rivalry is becoming a huge problem, talk to someone, talk to a doctor. Let in some help.

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Hsin-Yu Huang

UConn KIDS Research Assistant

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